New York City

Please note: The Wink can not accommodate all last minute cancellations.

Monday, 8/21:

-SafeWord: 6:30-9:30 PM FREE @ The Delancey (168 Delancey St, Manhattan) 

Put your name in the hat for a chance to tell your own 7 minute long story! Co-hosted by Mike Cotayo and Paige Davidoff. This is a weekly event, recurring each Monday. Arrive early for drink specials and socializing. More info here.

-Leather and Lace: 8 PM-2 AM 21+ FREE/unaccompanied women until 11, $20/unaccompanied women after 11, $40/pairs, $100/unaccompanied men @ Pendulum (location disclosed upon registration)

Juliette Doll hosts this swinger party for lovers of leather. Featuring a fully equipped fetish section with top of the line furniture, group play rooms, quite spaces, open lounges, hidden nooks and crannies, and complimentary snacks. Please arrive by 1 AM (no admission past that point). Register here.

-Jacks of Color: 8 PM-2 AM pricing at the door @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

An evening of play for men of color looking to hang out (and play!) in underwear with other consenting adult males. Paddles is a multi-level fully equipped dungeon with a cafe selling refreshments. This event recurs weekly. More info here.

Play Party9 PM-2 AM FREE/unaccompanied females all night and pairs before 10, $40/pairs after 10, $80/unaccompanied men before 10, $100/unaccompanied men after 10 @ Club Labyrinth (RSVP for location)

Attire for guys: black dressy/casual. Attire for women: black club wear. BYOB + bar service. This is an on premise party for swingers and kinksters. It’s dungeon equipped with private playspace, showers, and smoking lounges available. This is an ongoing event (every day except Tuesdays and Sundays). RSVP by emailing info@clublabyrinth.com. More info here.

-Foot Fetish Monday: 10 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St)

Foot fetish night at a men’s leather bar. More info here.

Tuesday, 8/22:

CFNM: 6:30-11 PM pricing upon registration inquiry @ Decadence (location disclosed upon admission confirmation)

A night for clothed females and naked men. Tonight, women are in charge and men will serve as nude and ready submissives. Register here. More info here.

-New York Jacks: 7-11 PM pricing at the door @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

An evening of play for men looking to jack it with other consenting male adults. Paddles is a multi-level fully equipped dungeon with a cafe selling refreshments. This event recurs weekly. More info here.

-Chest Harnesses for Suspension that Aren’t TKs: 7:30-10 PM (doors at 7) $5/TES members, $10/reciprocal community groups and students with ID, $20/non-members @ Alchemical Theatre Laboratory (104 W 14th St, Manhattan)

Come with questions! Belle will be leading this workshop on how to use the functional parts of a TK for the purpose of building different kinds of chest harnesses! These types of harnesses will work well for suspension. Presented by The Eulenspiegel Society’s Rope Group. Additional info here.

-Smoking Tuesday: 8 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

An evening for cigar and pipe lovers (both kinds ;). The roof deck will be open for smokers and their admirers. Wear leather (or not)! This event recurs weekly. More info here.

-After Work Party: 8 PM-2 AM $20/unaccompanied females, $40/couples, $120/unaccompanied males @ Bowery Bliss (location disclosed upon RSVP)

A pressure free night of play featuring free lockers (bring your own lock and a secure coat check, complimentary mixers (BYOB otherwise), snacks and desserts, free condoms, and robes and towels. Please note: events are only open to members and their guests, if no one in your attending party is yet a member, a $20 new member fee will be applied in addition to the door fee. RSVP here.

-Hanky Tuesday: 10 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

Fly your colors to let other male attendees at this leather bar know your sexual preferences. (By “fly your colors” I mean wear a bandanna or let it hang out of your back jean pocket.) More info here.

Wednesday, 8/23:

-DDD Play Group: 12-2:30 PM pricing upon registration inquiry @ Decadence (location disclosed upon admission confirmation)

An exclusive, capacity controlled, gender balanced party. Smaller than most sex-positive play events. If you’d like to familiarize yourself with the space and perhaps meet some people to attend this portion of the evening with, consider attending the afternoon event as well. Fill out this form to inquire for registration. More info here.

-DDD Play Group: 4-6:30 PM pricing upon registration inquiry @ Decadence (location disclosed upon admission confirmation)

An exclusive, capacity controlled, gender balanced party. Smaller than most sex-positive play events. If you’d like to familiarize yourself with the space and perhaps meet some people to attend this portion of the evening with, consider attending the afternoon event as well. Fill out this form to inquire for registration. More info here.

-Jockstrap: 7 PM FREE @ The Eagle (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

Featuring jockstrap wrestling matches and drink specials for attendees in jocks. Hosted by Mr. EagleNYC 2016, DarkQWolf. This is a weekly recurring event. More info here.

-Harnesses for Dynamic Suspension Peer Learning: 7:30-10 PM (doors at 7) $5/TES members, $10/reciprocal community groups and students with ID, $20/non-members @ Alchemical Theatre Laboratory (104 W 14th St, Manhattan)

Come with questions! Belle will be leading this workshop on how to use harnesses for suspension! This class will help you build on what you already know to make your chest harnesses the sturdiest they can be. Presented by The Eulenspiegel Society’s Rope Group. Additional info here.

-EXTRA – A Burlesque Revue: 8-10 PM (doors at 7) 21+ $15 @ House of Yes (2 Wyckoff Ave, Brooklyn)

Liver burlesque performances by Darlinda Just Darlinda, Tiger Bay, and more! Once you’re in the venue, stay put! There’s not re-entry. Tickets here.

-Spank Someone Happy: 8-10 PM FREE @ Pleasure Chest (1150 2nd Ave, Manhattan)

Sex specialists Nico and Santos lead this class on fun ways to stimulate ass — with spanking! Topics covered include sexual anatomy, intimate communication, talking about fantasies, and more. Additional info here.

-Orgasmic Wednesdays: 8 PM-2 AM FREE/unaccompanied women until 10, $20/unaccompanied women after 10, $50/pairs, $80/unaccompanied men @ Pendulum (location disclosed upon registration)

Porno Jim hosts this weekly event for folks in the non-monogamous and kink scenes looking to get down and have fun with other consenting adults. A XXX comedy show takes place at 10. BYOB, with free soda and snacks provided. There will also be a cuddle puddle, for those into the less sexual sort of play. Register here.

-Hard = Drive Underwear Party: 8 PM-2 AM $8/before 8 with VIP card, $22/with silver VIP card, $27/otherwise @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

An evening for playing in your underwear with other consenting male adults. Paddles is a multi-level fully equipped dungeon with a bar selling refreshments. This event recurs twice weekly (with exception to one week per month when it only occurs once). More info here.

Play Party: 9 PM-2 AM FREE/unaccompanied females, $20/pairs before 10, $50/after 10, $80/unaccompanied males before 10, $100/unaccompanied males after 10@ Club Labyrinth (RSVP for location)

Attire for guys: black dressy/casual. Attire for women: black club wear. BYOB + bar service. This is an on premise party for swingers and kinksters. It’s dungeon equipped with private playspace, showers, and smoking lounges available. This is an ongoing event (every day except Tuesdays and Sundays). RSVP by emailing info@clublabyrinth.com. More info here.

-Wicked Wednesday: 9 PM-3 AM 21+ $20/unaccompanied females, $100/couples @ Bowery Bliss (RSVP for location)

Featuring private rooms, a voyeur room, complimentary lockers, snacks and dessert, mixers, as well as towels, toiletries, and condoms. Please note: events are only open to members and their guests, if no one in your attending party is yet a member, a $20 new member fee will be applied in addition to the door fee. No single men! RSVP here.

Thursday, 8/24:

-Wild Thoughts: 6-9:30 PM FREE @ House of Yes (2 Wyckoff Ave, Brooklyn)

Come and share your thoughts on HIV prevention, and get a free gift card for it! Yep, you heard me right; you’ll receive a free gift card just for attending this event. Black and Latino men are especially encouraged to attend. There will be food and music. Register here.

-Hooray, Rosé! Summer Happy Hour7 PM 18+ FREE @ Babeland (43 Mercer St, Manhattan)

An evening of rosé and learning simple sex skills to heat up your summer play. Come alone or with a partner (doesn’t have to be someone you’re partnered with!). Running short on time? No worries, mini workshops such as these tend to last no more than 20 minutes. Sign up here.

-Society of Spankers: 7 PM-1 AM $20 @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

A men’s only spanking party that’s been running for a super long time. Generally, this party draws 40-65 person crowds. This event recurs the second and fourth Thursday of each month. More info here.

-Group Play Party: 8 PM-12 AM pricing upon registration inquiry @ Decadence (location disclosed upon admission confirmation)

A larger party comprised of single folks and couples, for those looking for group play opportunities. If you’d like to meet folks who may be attending this event, consider joining one of the smaller gatherings taking place earlier in the week. Fill out this form to inquire for registration. More info here.

Play Party: 9 PM-2 AM FREE/unaccompanied females, $20/pairs before 10, $50/after 10, $80/unaccompanied males before 10, $100/unaccompanied males after 10@ Club Labyrinth (RSVP for location)

Attire for guys: black dressy/casual. Attire for women: black club wear. BYOB + bar service. This is an on premise party for swingers and kinksters. It’s dungeon equipped with private playspace, showers, and smoking lounges available. This is an ongoing event (every day except Tuesdays and Sundays). RSVP by emailing info@clublabyrinth.com. More info here.

-Bi Bash & TGirl SheBang: 9 PM-3 AM 21+ FREE/unaccompanied women and TGirls before 11, $20/unaccompanied women and TGirls after 11, $60/pairs, $120/unaccompanied men @ Pendulum (location upon registration)

Please arrive by 2 – no admission will be allowed past that point! This is a pressure free way to play for newbies to the scene and experienced players alike. Featuring private rooms, a lounge area, a BYOB policy, a voyeur/exhibition room, and complimentary snacks and mixers. Register here.

-Jonsie’s Lair: 9 PM-3 AM $20/unaccompanied females, $60/couples, $120/unaccompanied males @ Bowery Bliss (location disclosed upon RSVP)

Featuring free condoms, and pressure free play. Oh yeah, and Josie Kat will be there. The venue has multiple levels of different kinds of play spaces, including a couples’ only floor and social lounge. Please note: events are only open to members and their guests, if no one in your attending party is yet a member, a $20 new member fee will be applied in addition to the door fee. RSVP here.

-Gear: 10 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

Leather/rubber/kink wear night at a male energy leather bar (gear required for club room entry, but not bar entry). Hosted by Mr. EagleNYC 2016 DarkQWolf and Bootblack Kyle. For more info, see here.

Friday, 8/25:

-Beer and Bingo Night: 7 PM 18+ FREE @ Babeland (462 Bergen St, Brooklyn)

Win Bingo and win a $25 gift card! Plus, the first ten to attend will go home with a free gift bag filled will sex toys! Did I mention this takes place in a  sex store? Bet you never thought you’d play Bingo in a sex toy store! Register here.

-Weekend Intensive Shibari Workshop: 7 PM $700/pairs @ location disclosed upon ticket purchase

An intermediate to advanced skill level weekend long rope workshop for pairs. (Attendees are subject to approval based on skill level, for safety purposes.) Only 12 pairs will be admitted, so apply and purchase tickets while you still can! Led by Gorgone. Tickets here.

-Awkward Sex and The City: 8-9:30 PM $15 @ Pleasure Chest (1150 2nd Ave, Manhattan)

Natalie Wall hosts this evening of Sex and the City themed comedy featuring a sizzling guest lineup. Also, there will be free beer and wine, plus 15% off in store merchandise for attendees. Seating is first come first served, so arrive early! Tickets here.

-Pup Night: 8 PM-1 AM FREE @ The Eagle on the first floor (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

For pet players and handlers. Come as a pair, or alone. And bring your gear! A live DJ will provide live beats. Find the pups and handlers of NYC-PAH on the first floor. The Eagle is a male-centric leather bar. This is a recurring event, occurring on the fourth Monday of each month. For more info, see here.

-Women Who Tie With Rope and Brush and Pen: 8 PM-2 AM $50/tonight only, $80/tonight and Camerata Erotica (taking place tomorrow night) @ The Euridice Gallery (location disclosed upon ticket purchase)

Marika Leïla Roux and Brenda Hom will be providing a live rope bondage performance for your viewing pleasure tonight, in addition to the display of a group art show by illustrators Human Chuo, Helene Planquelle, Diana Von Hammache, and Dorothy Darker. Tickets here.

-Submit Party: 9 PM-2 AM 18+ w/ID before midnight/$15, after midnight/$20 @ The Basement (call #718-789-4053 for address ((its’ in Park Slope))

This party is for women and transgenders who identify as sadists, masochists, voyeurs, and exhibitionists. Available equipment includes slings, bondage gear, and a spanking bench. There are also private cubbies, beds, and a shower. Get your boots done at the Boot Black station or hang out and watch porn. BYOB. Email red@submitparty.com with questions. More info here.

Play Party: 9 PM-3 AM FREE/unaccompanied females, $20/pairs before 10, $80/unaccompanied males before 10, $120/unaccompanied men after 10, $60/pairs after 10 @ Club Labyrinth (RSVP for location)

Attire for guys: black dressy/casual. Attire for women: black club wear. BYOB + bar service. This is an on premise party for swingers and kinksters. It’s dungeon equipped with private playspace, showers, and smoking lounges available. This is an ongoing event (every Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday). RSVP by emailing info@clublabyrinth.com. More info here.

-Friday Night Club Party: 9:30 PM-2 AM pricing upon registration inquiry @ Decadence (location disclosed upon admission confirmation)

A larger party comprised of single folks and couples, for those looking for group play opportunities. If you’d like to meet folks who may be attending this event, consider joining one of the smaller gatherings taking place earlier in the week. Fill out this form to inquire for registration. More info here.

-Rock N Roll Friday: 10 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

A DJ spins music live at this leather bar with intense male energy (tonight, specifically bear and pup energy). It’s going to be quite the evening in the leather animal kingdom. More info here.

-Frisky Friday: 10 PM-4 AM FREE/unaccompanied women before midnight, $20/unaccompanied women after midnight, $80/pairs, $120/unaccompanied men @ Pendulum (location disclosed upon registration)

Complimentary snacks and mixers (BYOB) served all night while you play or watch in a series of spaces set up for a sexy night. Coat check and lockers available for those who would like to change into something cozier on premise. There’s even a fully furnished fetish section. Register here.

-TGIF: 10 PM-4 AM 21+ $20/unaccompanied females, $100/pairs @ Bowery Bliss (location disclosed upon registration)

A weekly play party that takes the pressure out of play. Featuring complimentary lockers (locks available), mixers (it’s BYOB), free condoms (male and female as well as dental dams), plus robes and towels. Please note: events are only open to members and their guests, if no one in your attending party is yet a member, a $20 new member fee will be applied in addition to the door fee. Register here.

-Encore Men’s After Hours Party: 2:30-7 AM pricing at the door @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

An all male event for the kinky hearted looking for fun with other consenting adult males. Paddles is a multi-level fully equipped dungeon with a cafe selling refreshments. This event recurs each Friday and Saturday night. More info here.

Saturday, 8/26:

-Weekend Intensive Shibari Workshop: 10 AM-6 PM $700/pairs @ location disclosed upon ticket purchase

An intermediate to advanced skill level weekend long rope workshop for pairs. (Attendees are subject to approval based on skill level, for safety purposes.) Only 12 pairs will be admitted, so apply and purchase tickets while you still can! Led by Gorgone. Tickets here.

-Whiskey Me Away – Sex Tips and Whiskey Tasting: 4 PM 18+ FREE @ Babeland (94 Rivington St, Manhattan)

Free tips on having sexy fun! The first ten attendees will go home with free gifts, and everyone will enjoy 10% off in-store shopping, plus complimentary whiskey for all. RSVP here.

-NYC TNG Meeting: 5-7 PM FREE @ Cornerstone Cafe (17 Ave. B, Manhattan)

A munch is where new and experienced kinksters alike meet to talk about BDSM and non-BDSM stuff and hang out. Just walk in and look for a group of people hanging out, ask if they’re there for the munch. Age restriction: 18-35. Attending this event is also a way to become a card carrying member of the group, just ask an organizer about it while you’re there. More info here.

-Volunteer Appreciation Party: 8 PM-2 AM $15/in advance, $20/at the door @ location disclosed to volunteers

An exclusive party for volunteers of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES). If you’d like to become a volunteer, you can do so by first becoming a TES member. If you are attending and are looking for a playdate, make a wish on the wishboard at the event! More info here.

-Camerata Erotica – Kink Renaissance: 8 PM-4 AM $50/tonight only, $80/tonight and Women Who Tie (taking place Friday night) @ The Euridice Gallery (location disclosed upon ticket purchase)

An art exhibition featuring works by Marika Leïla Roux, Human Chuo, Hélène Planquelle, and Diana Von Hammache. There will be live rope bondage performances by Marcuslikesit, Audrey Ropeburn, Dame Cuchifrita, Edie Nightcrawler — all underscored by the live music of Rebecca Cherry. Tickets here.

Play Party: 9 PM-3 AM FREE/unaccompanied females, $60/pairs before 10, $80/pairs after 10, $120/unaccompanied men before 11, $140/unaccompanied men after 11 @ Club Labyrinth (RSVP for location)

Attire for guys: black dressy/casual. Attire for women: black club wear. BYOB + bar service. This is an on premise party for swingers and kinksters. It’s dungeon equipped with private playspace, showers, and smoking lounges available. This is an ongoing event (every Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday). RSVP by emailing info@clublabyrinth.com. More info here.

-Countdown: 10 PM-4 AM (doors close at 11:45) 21+ $35/in advance, $40/at the door for pre-approved members @ Gemini & Scorpio Loft (Gowanus, Brooklyn)

Start the evening off with foreplay happy hour from 10-11 PM featuring $4 beers and $5 cocktails. (After that, beers are $3-$6, cocktails $7-$9–still pretty happy if you ask me!). Dress sexy and fun, fetish attire, lingerie, costumes, always welcome. Please acquaint yourself with the PAL system before attending. Email scorpio@houseofscorpio.com with your and your PAL’s FB or other online profile page for permission to attend. More info here.

-Frisky Saturdays: 10 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St)

A DJ spins music live at this all male leather bar. This event recurs weekly. More info here.

-End of Summer Curvy Fling: 10 PM-4 AM 21+ FREE/unaccompanied women before 11, $20/unaccompanied women after 11,  $80/pairs, $120/unaccompanied men @ Pendulum (location upon registration)

A pressure free way to play for newbies to the scene and experienced players alike. Featuring private rooms, a lounge area, a BYOB policy, a voyeur/exhibition room, and complimentary snacks and mixers. Come celebrate Becca’s birthday! Register here.

-Sophisticated Saturdays: 10 PM-5 AM 21+ $20/unaccompanied females, $120/couples @ Bowery Bliss (location disclosed upon RSVP)

Featuring a Renaissance Lounge for socializing and mingling, group play with private playrooms, open play areas, and a fetish area on the second floor, and couples only playroom on the third floor. Please note: events are only open to members and their guests, if no one in your attending party is yet a member, a $20 new member fee will be applied in addition to the door fee. More info here.

-Encore Men’s After Hours Party: 2:30-7 AM pricing at the door @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

An all male event for the kinky hearted looking for fun with other consenting adult males. Paddles is a multi-level fully equipped dungeon with a cafe selling refreshments. This event recurs each Friday and Saturday night. More info here.

Sunday, 8/27:

-Weekend Intensive Shibari Workshop: 10 AM-6 PM $700/pairs @ location disclosed upon ticket purchase

An intermediate to advanced skill level weekend long rope workshop for pairs. (Attendees are subject to approval based on skill level, for safety purposes.) Only 12 pairs will be admitted, so apply and purchase tickets while you still can! Led by Gorgone. Tickets here.

-Bear Party: 1-6 PM pricing at the door @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan – use ground floor entrance)

An afternoon of play for bears and their admirers. Paddles is a multi-level fully equipped dungeon with a cafe selling refreshments. This event recurs weekly. More info here.

-Beer Blast: 5 PM FREE @ Eagle Bar (554 W 28th St, Manhattan)

DJs Corey Craig and Bobby Duron will be providing live music at this all male leather bar. For more info, see here.

-Bondage Club Night: 7 PM-1 AM $20 @ Paddles (250 W 26th St, Manhattan)–ground level, beyond the steps to #250 entrance

Paddles is a dungeon equipped play space. Sexy/lingerie/fet wear welcome. Tonight’s party is exclusively for bi, pan, gay, and curious men. More info here.

-The Art of the Blow Job: 7:30-9:30 PM (door at 7:15) 18+ $26.25/students, $35/general admission @ Babeland (43 Mercer St, Manhattan)

Learn how to give great head with hand and tongue techniques as well as toy incorporation (there will be demonstrations!). This class includes a 15 minute break halfway through, and the store will remain open for individual shopping a half hour after the event. Feel free to also ask any additional questions you may have. Tickets here.

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